"We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what women do. We raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about our sons’ girlfriends, but our daughters boyfriends? ‘God forbid!’ But of course when the time is right, we expect those girls to bring back the perfect man to be their husband. We police girls, we praise girls for virginity, but we don’t praise boys for virginity. And it’s always made me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out because [laughs] the loss of virginity is usually a process that involves [laughs]….
We teach girls shame. ‘Close your legs!’ ‘Cover yourself!’ We make them feel as though by being born female, they are already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up—and this is the worst thing we do to girls—they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form."
— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (via tobia)
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the moon is queen of everything.
she rules the oceans, rivers, rain.
when i am asked whose tears these are
i always blame the moon.
— lucille clifton, moonchild
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"If we have lost touch with what our forefathers discovered and knew, this has been due to the system of education to which we were introduced. This system of education prepared us for a subservient role to Europe and things European. The educational system which we devise today must equip us with the resources of a personality and force strong enough to meet the extensiveness of the African presence and situation."
Kwame Nkrumah, 1st International Congress of Africanists, University of Ghana, December 12, 1962
"Women are emotional in order to feel the divine energy at the highest levels and be supreme healers and lovers and mothers. Not to drive men insane. Her deep spiritual connection to feelings is to inspire a man to his spiritual heights as well. She is not a nag, she is an oracle."
— Raja Khan (via stellablu)
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"…Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power — not because they don’t see it, but because they see it and they don’t want it to exist."
— bell hooks (via angrynerdyblogger)
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"Black love is black wealth."
— Nikki Giovanni (June 7, 1943)
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"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by assholes."
— W. Gibson (via msjerz)
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"I had to go through a time of isolation in order to come to terms with who and what I was, as distinguished from all the things I’d been told I was. Right around 1950 I remember feeling that I’d come through something, shed a dying skin and was naked again. I wasn’t, perhaps, but I certainly felt more at ease with myself."
— James Baldwin